I was watching this one episode from Friends (if you do not love that show can take up a screw driver and stab it in your own eyes) in season 4, the one with the cat. Phoebe thought that the cat that she found was her mother who died long time ago, visiting her. Unfortunately, the rest of the gang found out that the cat actually belonged to a little girl who has posted the lost cat notices all over the places.
Everyone else in the group was reluctant to tell Phoebe about the lost cat, but Ross stood up and this was the bit of the conversation that led to the part that I felt really touched about.
Ross: Enough is enough, I am sorry about you spending time with your new mum, but this is NOT your old mum. This is a cat. Hoolio, the cat. Not mum !! Cat.
*Phoebe puts down the cat...
Phoebe: Ross, how many parents have you lost?
Ross: ..... none?
Phoebe: Then you don't know how it feels like when one of them comes back, do you?
Phoebe: I believe this is my mother. Even if I am wrong, who cares?? Just be a friend, ok? Be supportive.
That last part spoken by Phoebe was unbelievably sensible, in her own ways. Sometimes, we do things that people do not accept, but what separates those who choose to leave you behind for who you are and what you do, and those who stay and support you no matter what: is friendship. Friends are supposed to be there, setting differences aside, and accept each others weaknesses, not exploiting them and make a whole huge deal out of it.
Sometimes, in the midst of angry misunderstandings, I just wish to scream out loud: Even if I am wrong, who cares?? Just be a friend, ok? That is all that I need.
That is all that I need.